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Public Spirited Official Column – Gratitude to heal you life – Fear

Fear can play a major part in our lives and can also stop us from progressing with our life path. When we look at our daily lives most of us will have fear of something. Generally this fear will stop us from doing. Fear can result from many issues fear of commitment, fear of the unknown, fear of failure…… By overcoming our fears we are dealing with issues that can keep us stagnated and living in the past.
Overcoming fear doesn’t happen instantly or automatically. Action is required and it is a result of our deliberate intention to overcome the fear we have. As we tackle fear head on we grow as people and expand the possibilities that surround us in life.
Overcoming fear is a skill that anyone can learn. The problem is that most people cling to their fears, because it’s part of who they are and the fear of change can sometimes be perceived as worse that the fear that they are trying to overcome, therefore it becomes a vicious circle.

When we look at our fears we need to look at our lives as a whole. Let’s say we have a fear of getting hurt by relationships, because we have been hurt by a past partner. We know that the hurt we endured pain at the time and that we do not want to feel this again, so we close our hearts down and don’t let anyone in. This fear is stopping any kind of happiness from entering our lives. Let’s face it we all need to be in a loving relationship, to have someone there to love us unconditionally. But the fear of “hurt” is stopping that from happening. It is stopping us from moving forward with our life and stopping us from finding happiness and the loving committed relationship which we crave. If we can find a way to control this we would be moving forward and living in the present and in turn make room for happiness. When we have overcome one fear it makes it easier to overcome other fears too. What do you have to lose?

Ways to overcome fear

Before you can overcome you fears you need to know exactly what you are afraid of. Take a good look at the pictures that come to mind when you think of your fear, how do you feel about them? How do you perceive them? then put them into perspective.

Believing in yourself
Have faith in yourself that you can change anything you wish too. By having the belief in yourself that you can overcome your fears you are sending that message out to the universe and in turn the universe will send you more thoughts of believing in yourself. (law of attraction)

Forgiveness is a tool that can be used in almost all circumstances. Most of our fears stem from things we have experienced in our lives. By forgiving these situations we are letting go of the feelings associated with the experiences, allowing us to move forward from the situation.

Gratitude is a very powerful tool. Whenever you feel fear, switch it over to what you are grateful for instead. If you’re afraid of public speaking, be grateful for the opportunity to communicate with so many people, and that they are there to genuinely listen to what you have to say.
Positive thought
When we are driven by fear we are looking at the negative, by changing our thoughts and feelings around the situation to positive we can overcome the fear, so instead of thinking about the worst scenario that could happen, think about the most positive thing that could happen.

Affirmations are positive statements that, when repeated frequently can change our subconscious. Using positive affirmations can help you to overcome any fear. Let’s say you have a fear of failure a good affirmation would be “I am successful”.

Writing down our fears can help us to understand them and our thoughts and feelings about them. When we write them down we are stopping them from spinning round and round in our heads.

Reading books on the fears we carry can help to give us clearer understanding of our fears and where they may stem from. Enabling us to start to deal with them.

Professional help
There are many therapies that can help us to overcome our fears if they are deep rooted including Hypnosis, EFT, Reiki and life coaching.

Talking about our fears to others can help us to start to put them into perspective and you may just find you are talking to someone who has the same fears as you.

Ask yourself if there is something you are meant to learn from this fear, what is your fear trying to tell you. Listen to your thoughts and feelings.
Have control
Stop playing the victim and take back control.
Take Action
Your fears are not going to just disappear, you will need to take action in order to overcome them.

When our fears come up take action immediately, acknowledge, release and heal. You can use any of the tools we have previously looked at including affirmations, positive though and gratitude.

Until next week



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