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Archive for November, 2013

Now that we have looked at a few different tools that can be used to help us to make some major changes in our lives, we are going to start to use them over the following weeks.

This week we are going to work with a gratitude stone. You can choose a pebble, a stone, a crystal or anything else you feel drawn to. It needs to fit into the palm of your hand and fit easily in your pocket, other than that the choice is yours.

How to use your gratitude stone:

Hold your stone in the palm of your hand and start to think about the things you are grateful for. Lets say you are thinking about your family, think about the wonderful times you have spent together and how grateful you are for those people and experiences.

Doing this on a regular basis will also help you to bring in more things to be grateful for via the law of attraction, because like attracts like.

Each night take your gratitude stone and hold it whist writing or saying a list of things you are grateful that day, really put though and feeling in to your list. When you do this on a regular basis you will start to associate gratitude and positivity with your stone. If at anytime you are feeling low or negative you can hold on to your stone and bring yourself back to a more positive place with your charged stone.

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Public Spirited Official Column – Gratitude to heal you life – Fear

Fear can play a major part in our lives and can also stop us from progressing with our life path. When we look at our daily lives most of us will have fear of something. Generally this fear will stop us from doing. Fear can result from many issues fear of commitment, fear of the unknown, fear of failure…… By overcoming our fears we are dealing with issues that can keep us stagnated and living in the past.
Overcoming fear doesn’t happen instantly or automatically. Action is required and it is a result of our deliberate intention to overcome the fear we have. As we tackle fear head on we grow as people and expand the possibilities that surround us in life.
Overcoming fear is a skill that anyone can learn. The problem is that most people cling to their fears, because it’s part of who they are and the fear of change can sometimes be perceived as worse that the fear that they are trying to overcome, therefore it becomes a vicious circle.

When we look at our fears we need to look at our lives as a whole. Let’s say we have a fear of getting hurt by relationships, because we have been hurt by a past partner. We know that the hurt we endured pain at the time and that we do not want to feel this again, so we close our hearts down and don’t let anyone in. This fear is stopping any kind of happiness from entering our lives. Let’s face it we all need to be in a loving relationship, to have someone there to love us unconditionally. But the fear of “hurt” is stopping that from happening. It is stopping us from moving forward with our life and stopping us from finding happiness and the loving committed relationship which we crave. If we can find a way to control this we would be moving forward and living in the present and in turn make room for happiness. When we have overcome one fear it makes it easier to overcome other fears too. What do you have to lose?

Ways to overcome fear

Perception
Before you can overcome you fears you need to know exactly what you are afraid of. Take a good look at the pictures that come to mind when you think of your fear, how do you feel about them? How do you perceive them? then put them into perspective.

Believing in yourself
Have faith in yourself that you can change anything you wish too. By having the belief in yourself that you can overcome your fears you are sending that message out to the universe and in turn the universe will send you more thoughts of believing in yourself. (law of attraction)

Forgiveness
Forgiveness is a tool that can be used in almost all circumstances. Most of our fears stem from things we have experienced in our lives. By forgiving these situations we are letting go of the feelings associated with the experiences, allowing us to move forward from the situation.

Gratitude
Gratitude is a very powerful tool. Whenever you feel fear, switch it over to what you are grateful for instead. If you’re afraid of public speaking, be grateful for the opportunity to communicate with so many people, and that they are there to genuinely listen to what you have to say.
Positive thought
When we are driven by fear we are looking at the negative, by changing our thoughts and feelings around the situation to positive we can overcome the fear, so instead of thinking about the worst scenario that could happen, think about the most positive thing that could happen.

Affirmations
Affirmations are positive statements that, when repeated frequently can change our subconscious. Using positive affirmations can help you to overcome any fear. Let’s say you have a fear of failure a good affirmation would be “I am successful”.

Journaling
Writing down our fears can help us to understand them and our thoughts and feelings about them. When we write them down we are stopping them from spinning round and round in our heads.

Reading
Reading books on the fears we carry can help to give us clearer understanding of our fears and where they may stem from. Enabling us to start to deal with them.

Professional help
There are many therapies that can help us to overcome our fears if they are deep rooted including Hypnosis, EFT, Reiki and life coaching.

Talk
Talking about our fears to others can help us to start to put them into perspective and you may just find you are talking to someone who has the same fears as you.

Ask
Ask yourself if there is something you are meant to learn from this fear, what is your fear trying to tell you. Listen to your thoughts and feelings.
Have control
Stop playing the victim and take back control.
Take Action
Your fears are not going to just disappear, you will need to take action in order to overcome them.

When our fears come up take action immediately, acknowledge, release and heal. You can use any of the tools we have previously looked at including affirmations, positive though and gratitude.

Until next week

Suzi 

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Gratitude to heal you life – Fear

Fear can play a major part in our lives and can also stop us from progressing with our life path. When we look at our daily lives most of us will have fear of something. Generally this fear will stop us from doing. Fear can result from many issues fear of commitment, fear of the unknown, fear of failure…… By overcoming our fears we are dealing with issues that can keep us stagnated and living in the past.
Overcoming fear doesn’t happen instantly or automatically. Action is required and it is a result of our deliberate intention to overcome the fear we have. As we tackle fear head on we grow as people and expand the possibilities that surround us in life.
Overcoming fear is a skill that anyone can learn. The problem is that most people cling to their fears, because it’s part of who they are and the fear of change can sometimes be perceived as worse that the fear that they are trying to overcome, therefore it becomes a vicious circle.

When we look at our fears we need to look at our lives as a whole. Let’s say we have a fear of getting hurt by relationships, because we have been hurt by a past partner. We know that the hurt we endured pain at the time and that we do not want to feel this again, so we close our hearts down and don’t let anyone in. This fear is stopping any kind of happiness from entering our lives. Let’s face it we all need to be in a loving relationship, to have someone there to love us unconditionally. But the fear of “hurt” is stopping that from happening. It is stopping us from moving forward with our life and stopping us from finding happiness and the loving committed relationship which we crave. If we can find a way to control this we would be moving forward and living in the present and in turn make room for happiness. When we have overcome one fear it makes it easier to overcome other fears too. What do you have to lose?

Ways to overcome fear

Perception
Before you can overcome you fears you need to know exactly what you are afraid of. Take a good look at the pictures that come to mind when you think of your fear, how do you feel about them? How do you perceive them? then put them into perspective.

Believing in yourself
Have faith in yourself that you can change anything you wish too. By having the belief in yourself that you can overcome your fears you are sending that message out to the universe and in turn the universe will send you more thoughts of believing in yourself. (law of attraction)

Forgiveness
Forgiveness is a tool that can be used in almost all circumstances. Most of our fears stem from things we have experienced in our lives. By forgiving these situations we are letting go of the feelings associated with the experiences, allowing us to move forward from the situation.

Gratitude
Gratitude is a very powerful tool. Whenever you feel fear, switch it over to what you are grateful for instead. If you’re afraid of public speaking, be grateful for the opportunity to communicate with so many people, and that they are there to genuinely listen to what you have to say.
Positive thought
When we are driven by fear we are looking at the negative, by changing our thoughts and feelings around the situation to positive we can overcome the fear, so instead of thinking about the worst scenario that could happen, think about the most positive thing that could happen.

Affirmations
Affirmations are positive statements that, when repeated frequently can change our subconscious. Using positive affirmations can help you to overcome any fear. Let’s say you have a fear of failure a good affirmation would be “I am successful”.

Journaling
Writing down our fears can help us to understand them and our thoughts and feelings about them. When we write them down we are stopping them from spinning round and round in our heads.

Reading
Reading books on the fears we carry can help to give us clearer understanding of our fears and where they may stem from. Enabling us to start to deal with them.

Professional help
There are many therapies that can help us to overcome our fears if they are deep rooted including Hypnosis, EFT, Reiki and life coaching.

Talk
Talking about our fears to others can help us to start to put them into perspective and you may just find you are talking to someone who has the same fears as you.

Ask
Ask yourself if there is something you are meant to learn from this fear, what is your fear trying to tell you. Listen to your thoughts and feelings.

Have control
Stop playing the victim and take back control.

Take Action
Your fears are not going to just disappear, you will need to take action in order to overcome them.

When our fears come up take action immediately, acknowledge, release and heal. You can use any of the tools we have previously looked at including affirmations, positive though and gratitude.

Until next week

Suzi 🙂

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Forgiveness

Most of us have been hurt or wronged by people we love or care about.  Maybe you have been criticized by parents, cheated on by a spouse or, constantly told you are stupid by the people around you. Whether they hurt us by actions or words the effects can cause us to feel bitter and resentful.  It is when we hold on to these feelings that we start to cause ourselves problems and this can leave us with lasting feelings of anger, bitterness or wanting revenge.

What is forgiveness?

Forgiveness is a conscious decision to let go of resentment, bitterness, anger and thoughts of revenge.

Forgiveness doesn’t mean that you deny the other person’s responsibility for hurting you, and it doesn’t minimize or justify the wrong. You can forgive the person without excusing the act. Forgiveness brings a kind of peace that helps you move forwards with your life releasing resentment and pain.

The act that hurt or offended you might always remain a part of your life, but forgiveness will help to alleviate its grip on you and help you focus on other more positive parts of your life. Forgiveness can also help you to understand and offer feelings of empathy and compassion for the person who hurt you. Forgiveness also stops you looking back at past events and allows you to focus on the Present.

What are the benefits of forgiving someone?

Letting go of hurt, anger, pain and bitterness can make way for compassion, kindness, understanding and peace.

Forgiveness can also lead to:

Healthier, happier relationships.

Less anxiety, stress and hostility.

Lower blood pressure.

Fewer symptoms of depression and sadness.

Lower risk of alcohol and substance dependency.

The ability to live in the present and stop focusing on the past.

What are the effects of carrying this hurt and pain?

When we are unable to forgive the person who wronged us we will repeatedly bring the same scenario’s into our lives, relationships and experiences. If you become so wrapped up in the wrong you will never enjoy the present or the future. This can often lead to depression and often alcohol dependency which will numb the constant pain. The pain you are carrying can also stop you feeling that your life has purpose or that you are of value and loved by others.

When we carry around anger, frustration, un-forgiveness and pain our energy levels are of a low vibration. When we live on a low vibration we attract people on a low vibration, thus bringing forwards the same kind of relationships we have previously experienced, so nothing will change. As we forgive and change we will higher our vibration and attract people on a higher vibration, changing our experiences and our relationships.

How to forgive?

By forgiving you are committing to change, letting go of negativity, releasing fear and living in the present.

Here are some ideas to get you started:

Look at the situation honestly and how it is affecting your everyday life, health and well-being. Do you want this person to still be in control of your life or are you going to take back control and stop playing the victim?

How will forgiving this person change your everyday life? Will it allow you to make the changes you need too to start enjoying you life?

When you’re ready, actively choose to forgive this person who’s hurt or wronged you so that you can move forwards with your life.

Move away from your role as victim and release the control and power the offending person and take back control.

As you let go of hurt and pain you will no longer define your life by how you’ve been hurt in the past. You will be living in the present and planning your future. You might even find compassion and understanding for others.

Use Gratitude and affirmations to help give you the strength you need to let go and forgive others as well as yourself.

“I am grateful i can forgive myself for my mistakes.”

” Thank you for helping me to release my hurt and anger.”

“I am grateful that i have taken back control of my life, i am no longer a victim and i can forgive everyone that has caused me pain, hurt or suffering.”

 

What if the person I’m forgiving doesn’t change?

Getting another person to change his or her actions, behavior or words isn’t the point of forgiveness, we all have fee will. Think of forgiveness more about how it can change your life, by bringing you peace, happiness, and emotional and spiritual healing. Forgiveness can take away the power the other person continues to have in your life.

Forgiveness is about you and moving your life forwards, not the person who wronged you.

If you are constantly looking at the past, how can you enjoy your present and build your future???

Until next week,

 

Suzi 🙂

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